I was in a MOOD, and I mean a BAD mood! Everywhere I turned someone wanted a piece of me – my kids, my husband, my clients and I honestly wanted to tell them all where to go!
Don’t get me wrong, I love them ALL, but while everything around me was crashing down these past few weeks I just wanted to retreat. I felt like a turtle. I wanted to tuck myself into the safety of my shell and just BE.
I was sick of being of service and I wanted everyone to leave me the hell alone so that, for once in my life, I could do what I wanted to do and nothing else. I resented all my roles, obligations and responsibilities and I was heading into a deep, dark place. I needed to let it go.
Luckily, as a mindset coach, I had the wherewithal to get a handle on things sooner than later. I recognized I had a choice. I could stay where I was (and be miserable) or I could let go of resentment and fix things. So out came my handy dandy toolbox of wonderful tips, tricks and techniques and there on top was one of my most trusted and best-loved tools to fix nasty mindset gremlins….gratitude.
When you’re locked into feeling a particularly rough emotion (like resentment) it can be difficult to figure out a way to get out. One trick I use is to look at emotions like colours on a colour wheel. Identify the negative emotion you’re feeling, then think of what’s the direct opposite and there’s your fix.
So if you’re feeling resentful about something, and kind of despising it, the opposite is enjoying it and feeling grateful to have that in your life.
In my case, instead of looking at my obligations and responsibilities as “have to do” items on my list I started to look at them as “I’m lucky I get to do” items on my list. Of course, this shifted my whole perspective about them. For example, if you’re getting annoyed because you have to do laundry think of it as, “I’m so grateful that my family has clean clothes to wear and I’m so grateful that I have a washing machine and dryer that allows me to launder our clothes quickly and effectively.” Next time you catch yourself grumbling that you have to clean the house, think, “I’m soooo happy and grateful that I have a house to clean.” Pissed off about something in your business? Remember to be grateful that you HAVE a business and get to be your own boss and serve the people you want to serve.
Give it a try and see how it feels. Chances are, the resentment will quickly wither away. And before you know it, the dark cloud that was hanging over you will make way for sunnier skies.
While this is a great way to let go of resentment, why not minimize it in the first place. Take a few moments each day to recognize things in your life that you’re grateful for. Maybe you do this already but there’s likely one critical part that you’re missing. After you acknowledge something you’re grateful for, take a moment to think about WHY. It’s the WHY that brings out the emotion attached to gratitude, and it’s that emotion that emits a signal to the universe that will result in you receiving even more things to be grateful for! Sign me up for that!
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