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“So you’re 10 years old, you have a laptop, ipod, Facebook and a Blackberry. Dude, when I was 10 we had one thing to play with…it was called OUTSIDE!!!”
I laugh hysterically as I read this post on Facebook, especially since my nine-year old son just started whining about how he has NOTHING to do! I bite my tongue so I don’t launch into a tirade about how things were when I was a kid (otherwise known as “the olden days” to my 13 year old daughter).
It’s easy to think that kids today have it made. But imagine, for a minute, being a KID in today’s world? Imagine having to navigate the social media universe (and the dangers that lurk therein), the constant pressure to have all, be all, look cool, and stay at the top of the class? Sure, each generation comes with high expectations and pressure but I am fairly certain that our stress levels as kids were nothing close to what today’s pre-teens and teens experience.
So, as parents, how can we help our kids? How can we give them a “one up” in this crazy world? How can we equip them with the tools they’ll need to be successful adults?
In a nutshell, let’s teach them to TUNE IN. In a world where we are all bombarded by external stimuli 24/7, it can be really tough to pay attention to our own inner guidance system, otherwise known as intuition, Divine guidance, gut feelings etc. But it’s this internal compass that always steers us in the right direction so it’s crucial that we all start listening!
This internal guidance system is not a “gift” given to the chosen few. It is our birthright. Unfortunately though, as kids grow up they stop tuning in to it and it’s actually the parents and caregivers who, inadvertently, are to blame. Let me explain.
Can you relate to this…you’re in a hurry with a two-year old in tow. You need to go into a certain place and your child balks. She flat out refuses to enter the building. Your temper flares and you shout, “Stop being so silly!” Or, a stranger approaches you and your child and asks him a question. Your child hides behind your legs and you say, “Don’t be so shy, say hello.”
What’s happening here is that these children’s inner guidance system is telling them that something about that situation or person doesn’t feel right. This guidance is a powerful tool that not only warns us when something is not on the up-and-up, but can also nudge us in the right direction so that we fulfill our path and purpose.
Now flash forward to these same children several years later. After hearing “stop being so silly” for so long, they grow up ignoring their inner guidance because they have been taught that it must not be accurate! So as this young adult begins to navigate the world on their own, they must do so without the assistance of that inner voice. No wonder our young people today have it so HARD!
In my work as an Angel Therapy Practitioner®, I teach people how to recognize this guidance and how to use it to help them in every area of their lives. And now it’s time for parents to do the same for their children. And the best way to TEACH our children is to MODEL the behaviour we want them to imitate. So let me walk you through the process.
As I said, guidance is there for all of us to enjoy and to receive it, all we need to do is ASK. Once we put out that call to the Universe, help is on the way!
But teaching our kids to ask for Divine guidance is only the first step in the process. Next, they must learn how to recognize the help when it is given. In our daily lives, we receive information via our senses. We listen, feel and see things around us. When learning to tune into Divine guidance, you’ll use these same senses to receive the information that is sent to you. Pay extra close attention to your gut feelings, to things you see in your environment or to dreams and to the things you hear or seem to suddenly “know”. When you receive guidance you’ll see, hear, know or feel the same things repeatedly.
For example, let’s say your teen has been looking for a part time job. They’ve been asking for some Divine guidance to help them find a job so they can save money for their post secondary education. One day, a thought suddenly pops into their mind that they should call a former teacher. The first time they think this thought they ignore it. After a day or so, they notice that they get that same thought again. This time they might think, “Hmm, that’s funny, I just had that thought the other day.” But they ignore it again. A few days later, they get this thought a third time and finally make the call. They learn that this teacher is actually looking for help with a project over the summer. THAT’S how Divine guidance works! Spirit gives you the guidance and then you take action to make things happen as they are supposed to.
It takes some practice to learn how to recognize this guidance but really the MOST IMPORTANT steps in the process of tuning in, are learning to TRUST and to FOLLOW!
You see, people are learning to call for Divine help. They are even getting pretty good at recognizing the guidance when they receive it. But then they falter. They know they need to take some kind of action, based on the guidance they have received, but they don’t trust it enough to take action.
Sad, isn’t it? They’re so close to achieving the answers to their prayers but they just cannot seem to turn off the thoughts in their mind that tell them this guidance is “coincidence” or “made up” etc.
I’m not saying it’s easy to follow a gut feeling or a thought on blind faith without fully knowing or understanding WHY you are doing so. But I have gotten to the point where I do it anyway and it always works out. It takes some practice to get to this point but I challenge you to try it!
Sometimes, however, you’ll do all the steps correctly; you’ll ask for guidance, recognize it when it comes, then trust it enough to act it out but nothing will happen. So what’s going on?
There is something called Divine Timing at play. This simply means that when you ask for something, the Universe gets to work right away to bring it to you, however, some groundwork often needs to be laid first. Think of your request as a giant puzzle piece. Certain pieces need to be put into place before other ones can be added. You cannot skip steps and you cannot speed up the process. This is what is happening “behind the scenes” and the time lag, between when you ask for help and when it actually shows up, is what frustrates people and causes them to lose faith in this entire process.
So please be patient and to continue to TRUST. Divine help really does exist! Don’t quit believing before you see the miracles manifesting in your life. Instead, trust that all prayers will be answered and that everything will work out for your highest good. And next time your child whines about how hard life is, you can smile in the knowledge that you now have the power to help them in ways you never before imagined.
“I hate you mommy!”
You stop dead in your tracks and flash a sheepish grin. You immediately feel like thousands of eyes are focused solely on YOU and your screaming child who has just reached DEFCON 1 (defined by Wikipedia as nuclear war is imminent) in the shopping buggy at Toys R Us. You calmly try to explain to “ballistic baby” that you are not there to buy them a toy but rather to get a gift for so-and-so’s birthday party. Of course your kid wants none of it and you quickly scour the aisles for the first available hole to crawl into so you can escape the whispered comments and disapproving glances of the shoppers all around you.
Sound familiar? If you are a parent, chances are good that you have experienced this scenario at least once in your lifetime. While you read this scenario, how did you react? Did you notice your heart starting to beat faster, heaviness in the pit of your stomach? Maybe you noticed you were clenching your jaw.
These reactions are likely due to the fact that when our children misbehave in public we feel that the people who witness it are judging us. Our sense of self, aka ‘the ego’, gets attacked and we take it personally. Our ego is the mechanism that makes us care deeply about what other people think about us. And unfortunately, it drives us to do things even when they don’t FEEL right or genuine.
In other words, we sometimes parent our kids in a way that we might not inherently agree with but we do it because we want to LOOK GOOD to others. So we follow whatever parenting advice happens to be in vogue at the moment, or the rigid black and white rules our own parents insist on, or methods the school imposes, or what has worked for our friends, co-workers or the impeccably dressed lady who sat next to you on the subway with her four well groomed, well behaved children in tow.
However, anyone with a kid or two, or seven, knows that there is no such thing as black and white when it comes to raising your children! No two kids are alike so how can we, in good conscience, parent from a place of one size fits all?
Now some of you may feel like the rug has just been pulled from beneath you and wondering, “if I am not supposed to base my parenting on any of those things, then how exactly am I supposed to ensure my child grows up to be a healthy, functional adult one day?”
The answer is to use the best gift you have ever been given…your inner compass or the “gut feelings” that you have. This fabulous tool, also known as intuition, is like a lighthouse guiding the way in the storm but unfortunately, most of us have been taught, from a young age, not to trust these feelings. Without this inner guidance, most people flounder in life, not trusting themselves in the decisions they make and feeling like they need to turn to others (like experts and gurus) for validation, clarity and direction. So it’s no wonder that when they implement these “teachings” it feels false or phony and is not effective.
Kids aren’t stupid. They have an almost super-human ability to sense phoniness and if you aren’t buying the parenting methods you are implementing you can bet dollars to donuts they aren’t either!
So stop doing them (and yourself) a disservice by being bullied into the “right vs. wrong” way of parenting. Instead, learn to tune into your intuition and follow what you know is right in your own heart.
Sure, others may criticize your methods but as Wayne Dyer says, “What other people think of you is none of your business.” In other words, so what?! People will form an opinion of you one way or the other and there’s not much you can do about it. So instead of worrying about it, just focus your time and energy into being the best YOU/PARENT that you know how to be.
I think Steve Jobs said it best when he said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life and don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. Most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.”