Ramona Remesat

Spiritual Life Coach & Angel Therapy Practitioner

What to do When You’re Feeling Anxious

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I’ve got a speaking gig in a few days that I’m pretty excited about. I’m lucky that way because I know that for many people, public speaking is a fate worse than death. And while I actually enjoy it, I have to say, I’m not completely immune to butterflies in the stomach, sweaty palms or feeling anxious.

As a mindset coach, I see first-hand how anxiety plays a role in our ability to be successful or not. And for entrepreneurs, there are plenty of opportunities for feeling anxious from making sales calls and ensuring launches go off without a hitch, to minding the bottom line and skirting technical glitches.

But where anxiety got real for me was this past winter when my 15-year-old daughter came to me asking for help. She let me know that she was feeling anxious and it had been escalating. Now it was time to see a professional.

Nothing breaks a parent’s heart more than seeing their child struggle and so in addition to having her see our family doctor, I’ve been on the lookout for tools, tips and techniques that can help her when she’s feeling anxious.

In my search, I’ve come across several things that are helpful for just about anyone, including the trembling entrepreneur!

Since it’s summer and we love to go for frozen treats, I thought I would share something I call the “ice cream technique”.

If you’re feeling anxious about something, rather than try to picture a calm and soothing nature scene, or think about a happy time in your life, try to name as many ice cream flavours as you can!

Try it now and see how many you can come up with.

This is a form of grounding which helps you come back to the present. Essentially, it’s an escape hatch from the anxiety-provoking thoughts in your head. While some people may be more inclined to rattle off their multiplication tables, ice cream flavours are found to be more comforting and add a level of nostalgia, according to researchers.

So the next time the butterflies in your stomach feel more like a herd of elephants, start listing your favourite flavours and see how this technique works for you.

Now I’m off to the freezer to see if I can scrounge up some maple walnut. 🙂

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How to Let Go of Resentment

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I was in a MOOD, and I mean a BAD mood! Everywhere I turned someone wanted a piece of me – my kids, my husband, my clients and I honestly wanted to tell them all where to go!

Don’t get me wrong, I love them ALL, but while everything around me was crashing down these past few weeks I just wanted to retreat. I felt like a turtle. I wanted to tuck myself into the safety of my shell and just BE.

I was sick of being of service and I wanted everyone to leave me the hell alone so that, for once in my life, I could do what I wanted to do and nothing else. I resented all my roles, obligations and responsibilities and I was heading into a deep, dark place. I needed to let it go.

Luckily, as a mindset coach, I had the wherewithal to get a handle on things sooner than later. I recognized I had a choice. I could stay where I was (and be miserable) or I could let go of resentment and fix things. So out came my handy dandy toolbox of wonderful tips, tricks and techniques and there on top was one of my most trusted and best-loved tools to fix nasty mindset gremlins….gratitude.

Why gratitude?

When you’re locked into feeling a particularly rough emotion (like resentment) it can be difficult to figure out a way to get out. One trick I use is to look at emotions like colours on a colour wheel. Identify the negative emotion you’re feeling, then think of what’s the direct opposite and there’s your fix.

So if you’re feeling resentful about something, and kind of despising it, the opposite is enjoying it and feeling grateful to have that in your life.

In my case, instead of looking at my obligations and responsibilities as “have to do” items on my list I started to look at them as “I’m lucky I get to do” items on my list. Of course, this shifted my whole perspective about them. For example, if you’re getting annoyed because you have to do laundry think of it as, “I’m so grateful that my family has clean clothes to wear and I’m so grateful that I have a washing machine and dryer that allows me to launder our clothes quickly and effectively.” Next time you catch yourself grumbling that you have to clean the house, think, “I’m soooo happy and grateful that I have a house to clean.” Pissed off about something in your business? Remember to be grateful that you HAVE a business and get to be your own boss and serve the people you want to serve.

Give it a try and see how it feels. Chances are, the resentment will quickly wither away. And before you know it, the dark cloud that was hanging over you will make way for sunnier skies.

While this is a great way to let go of resentment, why not minimize it in the first place. Take a few moments each day to recognize things in your life that you’re grateful for. Maybe you do this already but there’s likely one critical part that you’re missing. After you acknowledge something you’re grateful for, take a moment to think about WHY. It’s the WHY that brings out the emotion attached to gratitude, and it’s that emotion that emits a signal to the universe that will result in you receiving even more things to be grateful for! Sign me up for that!

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What to do When You Don’t Want to do Anything

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My knees buckled. I couldn’t breathe. Tears sprung to my eyes. I felt numb with shock. I read the Facebook post, weeping, learning that my friend’s daughter had passed that morning after a tragic accident. A parent’s worst nightmare realized.

This blow came while I was coping with previous grief, health challenges, and business technical set-backs. I felt depleted, empty, spent.

Despite being a business owner with much to do, I didn’t want to do anything. Have you been there?

Maybe you’ve been in place where you feel like every time you take three steps forward you go two steps back? Or despite your best efforts, things aren’t going the way you hoped?

Do you soldier on, or do you do the unthinkable – take time off?

To an entrepreneur, taking time off is something almost unheard of. After all, there’s ALWAYS something that needs to be done when you’re a business owner.

But how do you know the difference between knowing when it’s okay to slack off a bit and being a SLACK-ER?

It all comes down to one thing, listening to your intuition.

There is a vast difference between heeding the universe’s whispers to slow down and just BE so you can hear what to do next vs. feeling fearful about doing something and thus procrastinating or getting sidetracked by doing less important tasks.

Obviously, when a tragedy occurs it’s completely acceptable to honour yourself and do what you feel you need to do in each minute.

But if you’re working on your first webinar (and feel scared and nervous about it) this isn’t the time to listen to your inner voice that tells you maybe you are better off re-organizing your office or posting infographics on Facebook. That’s not your inner GPS speaking, that’s your Ego – the voice that tries to keep you in your comfort zone.

So how can you differentiate between the two? Your intuition will always give you instructions that help keep you on your path and purpose. It will guide you by giving you REPEATED thoughts, ideas or gut feelings. Your Ego will give you fear-based instructions that end up pulling you further and further away from your path and purpose.

When it comes to being successful and having a happy life and business it’s obviously more prudent to listen to your inner GPS, yet sadly, most people do not.

They trust, and act upon, what their ego tells them to do because they believe it’s coming from their “rational mind”  and as a result, they usually don’t achieve the goals they set out for themselves.

Successful people, on the other hand, have learned how to tune into their inner GPS (aka intuition) and tune out their nagging inner critic (aka ego). It takes some patience and skill but anyone can learn how to do this effectively. And I personally believe, honing your intuition is the NUMBER ONE skill that all entrepreneurs need to develop, if they haven’t already. In fact, a study from the Newark College of Engineering showed that CEOs who demonstrate intuition create more PROFITS for their business.

On top of that, intuitive people are known for being more creative, more successful and living happier lives? And that’s because intuition makes you more understanding of others and therefore a better leader, manager and parent. 

So the next time you feel like it’s a better idea to re-organize your sock drawer than it is to book a speaking gig, check in with yourself and ask – is this action going to bring me closer to my goals or take me further away from them.

Sorry, your socks are gonna have to wait.

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How to Overcome Fear

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It sounds cliché but life can indeed change in an instant. Never was that more apparent to me than last August. At the beginning of that month we very suddenly, and very tragically, lost a beloved member of our family. Then just a few weeks later, still reeling from the pain and shock, I learned that one of my dearest teachers, Dr. Wayne Dyer had passed on. I felt like my world was crashing down on me.

This month brought these painful memories to the fore as a birthday passed without the presence of a loved one to celebrate with, and because it was just last May when I saw Dr. Dyer speak at the I Can Do It Conference in Edmonton.

Wayne opened his talk with the story of Bronnie Ware, an Australian hospice nurse who surveyed over 800 patients in the final days of their lives. She asked them if they would have lived their lives differently and if they had any regrets.

Do you know what the number one answer that people gave was?

It was this, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself and not the life that others expected of me.”

I remember getting chills when that answer was revealed. I couldn’t imagine anything worse than spending your whole life not following your heart and not doing what speaks to you at the deepest soul level.

And yet, that’s how most people out there are living. They do it because they can’t overcome fear. But at the end of their days will they be happy with that?

If the Grim Reaper came knocking on your door tomorrow, would you have regrets?

Why do you think you have unlimited time to live the life you dream of? You don’t! NONE of us are guaranteed that we will wake up tomorrow. It’s not being morbid, it’s a fact.

So why do so many people stay stuck and wait for “someday”? You hear it all the time, ”Someday I’ll start that weight-loss program and gain control of my health, someday I’ll work harder and get promoted, someday I’ll learn how to manage my mindset so I can get better results in my business.”

Fear is why people stay stuck. It’s probably the biggest challenge people have but I have a newsflash for you…EVERYONE is scared! If you want to know how to overcome fear here’s the answer…it’s to do the very thing you fear over and over again until fear no longer has a grip on you.

Og Mandino says, “Failure will never overtake me, if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” So if you want something badly, but fear is holding you back, ask yourself this question, “What scares me more?”

Is it the fear of not knowing HOW to do something, or what the outcome will be if you do, or is it waking up day after day, unfulfilled, sad, and disconnected from your purpose (or worse yet, coming to the end of your life with regrets).

What scares you more?

Now ask yourself this, “What am I willing to do about it?”

Is today the day you will finally take charge of your life and start living the life that’s true to you rather than the life that everyone else expects?

Are you ready to get off of the fantasy island called “Someday I’ll” and start creating the life you truly want today?

As Confucius said, “It does not matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop.”

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Why Aren’t You Asking For Help?

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Our province is under a state of emergency. The city of Fort McMurray, eight hours north of where I live, is burning! And it’s BAD!!

Multiple raging fires have forced the evacuation of more than 88,000 residents who have fled with, at the most, a few personal items. The city they once called home, completely devastated. People have lost their houses, their pets, and their livlihoods but mercifully, no lives have been lost.

Sadly, tragedies like this play out across our globe on a daily basis. But it seems that the common denominator in these news stories is how complete strangers come together in times of need to help one another.

In my neighbourhood, we’re asking for help and collecting donations of clothing, toiletries, and non-perishables to be sent by trucks to the evacuation centres. And similar acts of kindness are being replicated across the province and even up and down the evacuation route as Good Samaritans stop to re-fuel vehicles and hand out food and water.

In a crisis, most people don’t have any issue with asking for help or support but why then is it such a monumental thing to do when we’re faced with lesser problems?

Why aren’t more and more entrepreneurs leaning on their business brothers and sisters? Are we so afraid of showing vulnerability? Worried about being transparent? Scared of what others will think of us?

I’m telling you, the entrepreneurial life is rough and it’s definitely not for the faint of heart! It’s the craziest roller coaster ride there is!

Everyone who’s gone into business for themselves has thought of quitting at least a handful of times and if you say you haven’t, you’re lying.

That’s why it’s extremely important to surround yourself with one a hell of a support network. Sometimes family and friends don’t “get it” so look to your colleagues, your business buds, your “tribe” who’ve walked the walk and know what you are going through.

And when things are a little bumpy, don’t keep it all in and try to DIY it. For God’s sake, there’s no shame in asking for help so ask away! We are all one. We are all humans linked together by our DNA and sharing the same round ball in the Universe.

So let go of competition. Let go of comparing. Let go of the hugely limiting belief that you have to figure everything out on your own. Because successful people are the ones who know that you CAN’T do it alone, and that you must surround yourself with support at all times.

You’ve heard that there’s strength in numbers and it’s absolutely true. So your challenge this week is asking for help or, if you know someone who’s struggling, reach out to them and offer a helping hand. Pay it forward and watch beautiful things blossom.

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What to do When You Want to Quit

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Have you ever had one of those moments? You know, when something doesn’t go to plan and you want to give up. Have you ever noticed what you’re thinking in those moments? Have you told yourself things like, “Obviously this isn’t working, I might as well quit” or “This is too hard, I can’t keep going.”

I call this place the vortex of despair. It’s not a nice place to hang out in but somewhere all entrepreneurs end up in every now and again. Sadly, I had a little detour there myself lately but this time, rather than being an active participant in the dialogue in my head, I decided to be a third-party observer.

Observing the dialogue between my “I can do it angel” on one shoulder and my “Woe is me devil” on the other, led me to a revelation which was this, we are not our emotions. Our emotions are driven by our thoughts and our thoughts are impacted by our hormones and let’s face it, a woman’s hormones can really send you on a roller coaster ride sometimes!

Because you are feeling low doesn’t mean you are a failure and can’t do it. There can be a whole host of internal and external things going on that have triggered that thinking. So don’t allow yourself to get sucked into the self-criticism that likes to take advantage of your low points and tell you all the reasons you can’t or shouldn’t do something.

So how exactly do you do that? Go back to your big WHY. Why did you start your business in the first place? Do you love to serve and help people? Are you an entrepreneur so you can be there for your kids and have the freedom and flexibility to be present in their lives? Is it because you are compelled to make a change in the world?

Whatever the reason is, write out it out and put it someplace you can see it in your office. Make it BIG, add pictures, put sparkles on it, make it pretty! Then, whenever you feel yourself sliding into the vortex, stop what you are doing, take some nice big deep breaths and spend a few moments looking at your WHY. Really connect with it. If it doesn’t evoke a feeling in you, then it’s time to take a deeper look inside and ask if your work is in alignment with who you truly are. Because if it isn’t, it doesn’t matter how much inner work you do or how many coaches you work with, you will never achieve the level of success you desire. But that’s a topic for another day…

Why do I do what I do? Its because I want to inspire people. I want people to say, “because of you, I didn’t give up.” But more than that, it’s because I am an authentic, compassionate and visionary leader committed to helping self-sabotaging entrepreneurs get out of their own way so they can make money doing what they love and live their ideal (not just their possible) life! And I know that you have a big purpose to serve. I know that you were born because people need the gifts, talents and skills that you have to offer right now. If you let your emotions win, you won’t see the results you want in your business and you just may quit. And that would be a full-blown tragedy!

So don’t do that. Please don’t do that. Recognize that you are not your feelings or emotions. You have a big purpose to share. So when you want to give up, stop… breathe…re-set your mindset and go be unstoppable!

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How to Manifest like Magic!

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Have you ever had someone tell you that this “manifesting” business doesn’t work? Or maybe YOU’VE said that! Well listen up, because I’m going to tell you how to manifest like magic!

When I hear someone say that they can’t manifest anything or that it doesn’t work, I dig a little deeper and ask them what (exactly) they’ve been doing. The answer is usually all about their thoughts and staying positive but they don’t often talk about taking any ACTION.

Sorry to tell you this folks, but you can’t just sit back with your feet up, drinking Starbucks, and expect your goals to magically appear. The UPS man is not going to knock on your door and hand you a big ol’ bag of cash.

The Universal Law of Action states “action is necessary.”

When you ask the Universe for something, it will respond by giving you guidance on the steps you need to take to get it. But then it’s up to you to take action! If you don’t, then it’s kind of like saying, “I really want to win the lottery,” but you never buy a ticket. Get my drift?

Now it’s also critical to consider the TYPE of action you’re taking. Are you putting your time and energy into the intuitive guidance that you pick up? Or, are you listening to your inner critic (ego voice) and taking action on things that are pulling you further and further away from your purpose and the things you desire?

The trick on how to manifest like magic is to ONLY take action on the things that you are being Divinely guided to do and get really good at tuning out the ego voice (the one that tells you why you can’t or shouldn’t do something).

When you do, magical things start to happen! You will find that the right people show up, great opportunities come your way and the money is there to support you. Cool huh?

If you want to see change, then even the smallest action can help. Do some research, sign up for a workshop or course, hire a life/business/wellness or intuitive coach, create a website, send out a social media post, pick up the phone and call someone you’ve been feeling a nudge to call. You get the idea.

So ask yourself, “What’s one small action that I can take right now that’s going to move me closer to my dreams?” Then put down that Starbucks and get out there and GO FOR IT!

For a few more tips on how to manifest like magic check out how I managed to get front row seats at U2 here: Still Haven’t Manifested What You’re Looking For?

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Harness the Power of Mercury Retrograde in 2016

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As this year draws to a close, many are in the throes of planning out their 2016. Vacations, appointments, birthdays and anniversaries all find a place on our calendar but there are a few more key dates you will definitely want to write down!

Four times a year, for about 21 days, we experience a phase known as Mercury Retrograde. It used to be that whenever I’d mention this to someone they would look at me like I had three heads, but more and more, people are getting to know about this cosmic phenomenon and its associated SNAFUs.

You see whenever Mercury is in Retrograde we tend to have a higher than normal incidence of electronics going haywire, computer crashes, techno-glitches and miscommunications. Travel plans may go awry and all sorts of havoc seems to be unleased.

That’s because Mercury is the planet that rules communication and periodically, it appears to slow down, then stop and then move slowly backwards for several weeks (retrograde). This occurs because Mercury travels faster than the Earth and it periodically catches up with Earth, passing us by. It doesn’t actually slow down, stop and move backwards though, it only appears to do so.

But not without buggering up things to do with commerce, computers, telephones, transportation and air travel. And, since Mercury also rules your intelligence, mind and memory, you may find yourself wandering around in a brain fog during this time as well.

But it’s not all doom and gloom, you can actually harness the power of Mercury Retrograde in 2016 and get it to work FOR you rather than against you. Here’s how…

First of all, let’s put the dates for this sucker on the calendar, shall we?

MERCURY RETROGRADE 2016

  • January 5 – 25
  • April 28 – May 22
  • August 30 – September 22
  • December 19 – January 8

Now while Retrograde is NOT the time to start a new job, sign agreements, begin new projects, travel a lot etc. it can be a GREAT time to undertake tasks that start with “RE”. So here are 5 excellent things to do when Mercury goes Retro.

CHECK IT OUT — Mercury Retrograde is a great time to undertake research, check things out, and do some homework. It’s also great for re-working projects, re-strategizing and writing and working behind the scenes.

FEEL THE LOVE – During the three weeks of Retrograde re-connect with old colleagues, friends and even old lovers, if you dare.

BACK IT UP BABY – Haven’t backed up your computer records and important data in a while? You might wanna get to that pronto. You’ll thank me later.

DO OVER – You know those times when you wish you had a time machine so you could go back in time and re-do something? Well this is it! Think of Retrograde as your opportunity to rethink, redo, revisit, reconnect, rewrite, rebuild, re-evaluate, reconsider, review, revise and repair all kinds of situations. Go nuts!

OH THERE IT IS! – Mercury is a sly trickster and he loves to play hide and seek. But you may be pleasantly surprised and rediscover that pair of earrings you thought you had lost or find a treasured object that you were sure was never to be found again. On the flip side, keep an eye on your keys, wallets and documents at this time as they may have a tendency to go AWOL.

Knowledge is POWER! So now that you know what’s coming around the corner you can plan appropriately and you never know…you just might come to have warm and fuzzy feelings about Retrograde after all.

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Free Angel Reading for the week of Oct. 25

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I’m really glad I’m able to bring these free angel readings to you each week. I hope you enjoy them and embrace the tips, techniques and tools that are often shared as part of them.

This week, it looks like there’s some deeper work to be done in terms of evaluating your relationships. It’s time to look at your romantic relationships, friendships, work and family relationships through the lens of an analytical microscope. Be truthful and honest with yourself and ask if these relationships are working the way you want them to. Are they fulfilling all your needs? Are there aspects that aren’t working? If not, ask your angels to step in and help. If you already know that a particular relationship is not all it’s cracked up to be, resolve to let it go so you can make way for something new and even better! You can also call on Archangel Raguel (the relationship angel) to help you heal and harmonize relationships of all kinds.

In the middle of the week, be very mindful of your thoughts and words. Make sure they are positive because they are rapidly manifesting into form. Ask the angels to cancel the effects of negative thinking. Pay particular attention to what you say or think after “I am”. Those words are extremely powerful. If you are constantly saying things like, “I’m broke, I’m angry, I’m sick etc. then you will probably notice that the Universe obliges and continues to send you circumstances that align with those thoughts and words. When you catch yourself in negativity say, “Cancel, Clear, Delete” to offset the effects of that negative thinking and to remind you to stay on a positive wave length. Remember, by the Law of Attraction, the Universe will deliver back to you what you are broadcasting out to it via your words and thoughts.

As the week winds up, you may notice that the relationships and activities that you once enjoyed are now changing as you are becoming more sensitive and aware of energy. As you change, your relationships change and that’s okay but it can still be painful. Ask your angels to help you through this transition. Remember, by resolving to let go, you make way for new and better experiences and people to come into your life.

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Your Angels’ Guidance Oct. 19-25

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This will be a very healing week for you (as long as you listen to your angels’ guidance) beginning with some forgiveness work to clear space to make way for the new. Forgiveness is a very emotionally charged word because when most people think of forgiving someone, they think they are essentially saying that what the other person did to them was okay, but this is not the case.

Instead, you need to separate the person from their action and forgive the person. The angels are bringing this up because when you hold onto anger and unforgiveness you do a lot of harm to yourself. In fact, “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die,” as the saying goes.

If you are feeling blocked, stuck or like you are taking three steps forward and two steps back, it can be a strong indication that some forgiveness work needs to be done. Once this is complete, people report having amazing sleep, their blocks disappear and they start to see momentum in their lives again.

Be sure to watch the video for a simple but very effective forgivness technique and my recommendation on how to clear yourself everyday so that you do not carry unforgiveness from day-to-day allowing it to compound and cause dis-ease within the body.

By mid-week, tune into your angels’ guidance because they will give you the answers to your prayers by showing you the next steps to take. Remember, it’s up to you to recognize their guidance and take ACTION on it. So they are really reminding you to start noticing and paying attention to their guidance which will come as a repeated gut feeling, idea, thought or things you see, hear or have a knowingness about.

When you follow your angels’ guidance, ANYTHING is possible. So have faith and continue to work with them and ensure you do your part by taking those action steps. When you do, miracles can happen!

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